Changing Dating for Neurodivergents through the Mattr App-Jamie Johnston

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May 20, 2025

Jamie Johnston, the founder of the Mattr dating app, shares his passion for creating a safe space for neurodivergent individuals and those with mental health challenges. He discusses the importance of vulnerability in dating and how social media influenced the app's design. With a user-friendly interface that avoids the stress of swiping and helps manage rejection sensitivity dysphoria, Mattr focuses on emotional regulation and accessibility. Jamie also highlights common neurodivergent dating behaviors and the app's unique features, designed with psychology in mind.

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ANECDOTE

Diagnosis Sparked A New Mission

Jamie described being diagnosed with dyslexia early and later with AuDHD after the pandemic forced him to stop being constantly busy.
That diagnosis motivated him to stop hiding and to build an inclusive dating product.

INSIGHT

Vulnerability Works Online — Not On Dating Apps

Jamie noticed vulnerability succeeded on social platforms but was absent on dating apps, creating a gap to fill.
He concluded a dating app built around 'vulnerability first' could better serve neurodivergent and mentally‑health‑affected users.

INSIGHT

Why Dating Apps Hurt Neurodivergent Users

Digital dating disproportionately harms neurodivergent people because text, swiping, and feedback loops exploit their cognitive sensitivities.
Problems include tone misreading, dyslexia‑related text barriers, ADHD dopamine spikes, and RSD from inconsistent attention.

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During this episode with Jamie Johnston you will learn more about how the Mattr app is making dating more enjoyable for neurodivergent folks and those with mental health challenges. In addition, Jamie talks about why he is so passionate about his work and how understanding his dyslexia and AuDHD is helping him assist others on their on-line dating journey. Other topics discussed include:

We are taught that anything that can be "perceived" shouldn’t be shared on dating apps or while dating.
During the pandemic vulnerability and transparency became more acceptable on social media, but not on dating apps.
Vulnerability first is the focus of the Mattr app. It is an online dating platform where you can feel safe to share whatever you want.

Dating in a digital space can be very challenging for neurodivergent people.
Mattr is very user-friendly for people who have mental health challenges and/or are neurodivergent.
The app is based on research and psychology/psychiatry.
Dealing with rejection sensitivity dysphoria and dopamine hits through swiping or ghosting.
The app uses colors that are comfortable for Autistic individuals and they have a "time out toggle".
No swiping is involved and each person is given 6 matches.
Some of the biggest challenges in dating and maintaining a relationship include: emotional regulation; rejection densitivity dysphoria; hyperfocus on a person or your special interest.
ND folks may experience Inherent shame.
Things to look for that may help you understand that someone is neurodivergent: reactions to the space you are in and sensory issues; hyperfocusing on a topic/infodumping; executive functioning challenges- like planning a date; different communication styles; emotional intensity (differences in emotional reciprocity; differences in physical intimacy preferences.
“Be for someone, not for everyone”
Why the Mattr app was created and different resources available through the app. Partnerships with lots of businesses in London, also have offsite events.

You can learn more about the app here. They are hosting a special live event in London on June 25th. You can also follow Jamie on IG @Dating withJamie_

To learn more about the resources Mona has available for neurodiverse couples and individuals in neurodiverse love relationships click here.