#1245 - Mothers & Happiness

Pop star Chappell Roan recently claimed that all her friends with kids are “in hell” and have “no light in their eyes.” But is parenthood really as bleak as she makes it out to be? In this thought-provoking episode, Justin and Kylie Coulson unpack this viral comment with equal parts data, personal reflection, and heartfelt perspective. Together, they explore the complex relationship between parenting and happiness—and why the hard parts often make family life more meaningful, not less.

KEY POINTS:

• Chapel Roan’s viral claim about the misery of parenthood sparked a deeper conversation about happiness and raising kids.
• Research shows that while parenting is hard, it can also lead to greater meaning and long-term satisfaction.
• Married parents report higher happiness than unmarried or childless individuals, despite the challenges.
• Our culture often values ease and independence—but meaning and deep connection are built through effort.
• Parenthood brings emotional richness, not just “happiness” in the moment.
• Blanket statements about parenting overlook the light, joy, and depth it brings to many lives.

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:
“I’m so rich—life is so rich—because every time I look at one of my kids, I think: this is what it’s all about.” — Kylie Coulson

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

• Happiness research from the U.S. on parents vs. non-parents

• Paul Bloom & Roy Baumeister’s work on meaning and parenthood

• Instagram post from @tessapitter: “Dear Chapel Roan, I’ve never had more light in my eyes.”

• happyfamilies.com.au – Parenting resources for a happier family life

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:

1. Reframe your expectations – Hard doesn’t mean bad. Meaning often grows through challenge.
2. Celebrate small joys – Whether it’s tying a shoelace or a shared laugh, these moments matter.
3. Resist comparison culture – Social media snapshots don’t reflect the richness of your lived experience.
4. Share your light – Let your kids see your joy, even in the chaos. They’re watching—and it shapes them.
5. Choose presence over perfection – Fulfilment in parenthood isn’t about getting it “right,” but being there with love and intention.

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