
Conversations Making peace and finding laughter in my family's dark past
Nov 13, 2025
Reuben Kaye, a cabaret performer and artistic director of the Adelaide Cabaret Festival, dives into his deeply rooted family history marked by trauma and resilience. He shares how his WWII refugee ancestry influences his art and the emotional journey of discovering a lost brother. Amidst tales of bullying and his shift into performance as a coping mechanism, Reuben reflects on the healing power of comedy and the importance of vulnerability. His unique cabaret style merges personal stories with political commentary, making laughter a poignant tribute to his family.
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Early Home Theater And Heirloom Dresses
- Reuben Kaye grew up performing in a European, culturally Jewish household surrounded by classic comedians and music.
- His grandmother Elfrida's vintage dresses and house theatrics fueled his childhood dress-ups and early love of performance.
Grandma Rosa's Theatrical Resilience
- Grandma Rosa survived Stalinist poverty and later fled post-war Poland to work in Paris as a washerwoman and seamstress.
- Her vivacious personality made her a spoiling, theatrical grandmother who encouraged everyone to perform.
Return To East Berlin And A Painful Choice
- Reuben's maternal grandparents, Heinrich and Elfrida, defected from Australia back to East Berlin driven by staunch communist beliefs.
- Elfrida later fled East Berlin with Reuben's mother, leaving her son Helmut behind in an orphanage.






