Intertwine love and money in decision-making to better navigate life's big choices.
Utilize a structured 5-step framework for effective decision-making involving career, relationships, and finances.
Deep dives
Intertwining Money and Love in Decision-Making
The podcast emphasizes the intertwining nature of money and love in decision-making, contradicting the advice to keep them separate. Myra and Abby's insights stress that decisions about love often involve money, such as marriage and family planning, and vice versa. They highlight the importance of considering both aspects when making significant life choices.
Five-Step Framework for Complex Life Decisions
Myra and Abby introduce a five-step framework designed to assist individuals in making complex and challenging life decisions. The framework involves clarifying priorities, effective communication with involved parties, exploring various choices, seeking advice from trusted sources, and assessing potential consequences. This structured approach aims to provide a flexible yet solid method for decision-making.
Communication Strategies for Life Decision-Making
The podcast discusses effective communication strategies for navigating critical life decisions. Myra and Abby stress the importance of initiating dialogue thoughtfully and avoiding sudden communication about significant decisions. They recommend creating a conducive environment for open discussions to gather honest feedback and advice. Additionally, they advocate considering perspectives and engaging in patient, ongoing conversations to address critical issues.
Do love and money mix? Labor economist and Stanford Graduate School of Business professor emerita Myra Strober says absolutely.
“Separating money and love is not a good idea. I have had 40 years to think about this, and, in my class at the GSB on work and family, each semester I realize how important it is to intertwine love and money."
In this episode, Matt Abrahams sits down with Strober and social innovation leader Abby Davisson to discuss the thorny topics of work, money, career, and love. In their new book, Money and Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life’s Biggest Decisions, the coauthors provide a framework for communicating in and around tough decisions with those we love. These may include caring for aging relatives, expanding your family, changing careers or moving.
“If you are in a relationship, maybe you have kids or other people living in your household, the first thing you need to realize is that your career decisions are going to affect the whole ecosystem,” Davisson says. “It’s very important not just to clarify what you want, but to anticipate and think about the impact on those around you.”