Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

Erratic, Unreasonable Behavior

Nov 19, 2024

A mother grapples with her spirited three-year-old's recent erratic behavior, including anger and impulsivity. Compassionate parenting is emphasized as a key approach to address these challenges. The discussion highlights the emotional struggles children face, particularly during activities like music class. Tips for creating a nurturing environment and understanding the roots of impulsive behavior are shared, fostering empathy and emotional growth in kids.

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Children's erratic behavior often stems from emotional discomfort, requiring parents to shift their responses from discipline to empathy and support.

Recognizing and addressing a child's emotional state can transform parenting strategies, fostering a trusting relationship that encourages better behavior.

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Understanding Impulsive Behavior

Children often exhibit impulsive behavior driven by emotions, fear, and a sense of threat, which can lead to dysregulation. When parents attempt to manage these behaviors with reason, such as scolding or negotiating, they may unintentionally exacerbate the situation. For example, a child might already understand that their behavior is undesirable; however, the adult's reasoned response may only heighten the child's fear of not meeting expectations. Recognizing that children behave from a place of feeling rather than reason is crucial for improving parenting strategies and outcomes.

Intro

2min

Understanding Unreasonable Behavior: A Compassionate Approach to Parenting

10min

Understanding the Emotional Challenges of a Strong-Willed Child

6min

Navigating Childhood Emotions: Control, Excitement, and Uncertainty

5min

Understanding Impulsive Behavior in Children

8min

A mother reaches out to Janet because her 3-year old's behavior has recently become erratic and unpleasant, and she’s struggling to make sense of it. She writes that her boy is strong-willed, smart, kind, high energy and wonderful to be around. But lately he's quick to anger, throws things, screams NO to simple requests, is pushy with his younger sister and gets easily overwhelmed when disappointed. He even behaved wildly and disruptively in a weekly music class he normally enjoys. Janet offers some basic guidelines for responding that she believes can be applied to almost every kind of behavior concern parents face. She hopes you find this helpful!

Learn more about Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" at: NoBadKidsCourse.com.

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