Kris Perry, a key plaintiff in the landmark case Perry v. Schwarzenegger, joins the conversation alongside Sandy Stier. They reflect on their emotional journey through the fight against California’s Prop. 8, sharing personal stories of love and resilience. The discussion highlights their advocacy efforts and the struggles faced by LGBTQ+ individuals during this pivotal time. They also celebrate the progress made in marriage equality, emphasizing its significance in shaping societal attitudes and the importance of language in the fight for justice.
Sandy Stier and Kris Perry's journey highlighted the emotional and systemic challenges LGBTQ+ individuals faced in their fight for marriage equality.
Their personal growth and the support from loved ones underscored the transformative power of love and advocacy in changing societal perceptions.
Deep dives
The Struggle for Marriage Equality
Sandy Steer and Chris Perry faced significant challenges when they applied for a marriage license in California in 2009, only to be denied due to the passage of Proposition 8, which banned same-sex marriage. Their decision to become plaintiffs in the landmark case that ultimately restored marriage equality stemmed from their deep love and desire for recognition of their relationship. They reflected on the emotional turmoil they experienced, highlighting how systemic discrimination impacted their sense of self-worth and the importance of being able to marry the person they loved. Their journey not only aimed to change the law but also to challenge societal perceptions of same-sex relationships, emphasizing the core belief that love deserves to be recognized equally.
Personal Connections and Support
Throughout the legal proceedings, Steer and Perry leaned on one another for emotional support, navigating the pressure of being public figures in a contentious legal battle. Their personal relationship, which grew from friendship to a deep romantic connection, provided a strong foundation as they faced the complexities of the trial. Both expressed how their willingness to be vulnerable and open about their experiences encouraged understanding and empathy from family and friends who initially held conservative views. This support from their loved ones reinforced their belief in the importance of fighting for equality, inspiring others to embrace love regardless of sexual orientation.
The Impact of Legal Change
The successful outcome of their case not only changed their personal lives but also had a broader impact on societal attitudes towards same-sex marriage in California. The plaintiffs noted that marriage is a profound institution that embodies commitment and legal recognition, changing how they perceived their relationship and future. They expressed newfound gratitude and trust in their partnership, emphasizing that finally being able to say they were married brought a sense of fulfillment that was previously denied. Additionally, in the face of ongoing political challenges, their story served as a powerful reminder of how advocating for equal rights can inspire change and encourage acceptance in society.
In 2010, Sandy Stier and Kris Perry were part of a landmark case challenging California’s Prop. 8, which eliminated the right to marry for gay and lesbian couples after being approved by voters two years earlier. Their trial eventually resulted in Prop. 8 being struck down.
More than a decade later, Stier and Perry joined KQED to watch the unsealed tapes of their younger selves taking the stand, and reflected on what it meant to be part of that fight.