Gemma Hartley: ...dividing emotional labor in a relationship is a long process

Have you ever heard the term, “emotional labor”?  It's that invisible, unappreciated caring you do for other people.  You’re about to hear more about it as we talk with our guest, journalist Gemma Hartley, whose viral article "Women Aren't Nags, We're Just Fed Up" was viewed more than two BILLION times!  Her book on the topic is called "Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward".  Her website is http://www.gemmahartley.com/   Thanks to our sponsor, Paired, the relationship app for couples. You and your partner download the app, “Pair” together, and every day Paired gives you questions, quizzes and games to have fun, stay connected and deepen your conversations. It’s simple and often hilarious and heartwarming!   Each day you get a quiz to play, or a question to answer and you can’t see your partner's answer until you answer yourself.  Whether you’re just a few dates in or have been together a long time, it’s time to lighten the mood and have fun with your partner by using Paired. Paired has a special offer for our Nobody Told Me! listeners.  Head to PAIRED.COM/NOBODY to get a 7-day free trial and 25% off if you sign up for a subscription.     Thanks to our sponsor, Lomi, the world’s first Smart Waste Appliance.  If you’ve struggled with composting and feel it’s too much work, or feel bad that you’re not doing your part to help the environment, you have to check out Lomi, the countertop electric composter.  Just about anything you'd put into the kitchen disposer can be put into the Lomi on your countertop and turned into dirt in four hours.  Use that dirt in your garden! There’s no smell when Lomi runs and it’s really quiet.  Turn your food waste into dirt with the press of a button with Lomi.  Lomi will make the perfect gift for someone on your shopping list!  Just head to LOMI.COM/NTM and use the promo code NTM to get $50 off your Lomi!