In this milestone 200th episode, the tables are turned as Dr Amy Pearlman interviews The Penis Project's own Melissa Hadley Barrett. From wet hair and time zone mix-ups to powerful patient stories and favourite sex toys, this episode is a heartwarming, hilarious, and deeply honest look into what Melissa has learned after 200 interviews about penises, pleasure, relationships, and recovery.

Amy has been a popular guest on The Penis Project and a friend and colleague to Melissa over the past few years and for something different the tables have turned, and Amy is interviewing Melissa to see what she has learnt being a part of The Penis Project community for 200 episodes and just under 5 years of posting. On the 14th of September the Penis Project will have been live for 5 years. This may not seem like a long time for most people but for Melissa it has been huge. Keeping the interviews coming and arranging editing and show notes etc. whilst running a busy growing practice has been hard but worth it, and she has learnt way more from her patients and interviewees than she thought possible.

Together, Melissa and Amy explore:

How a podcast that began during COVID lockdowns with Melissa and Dr Jo Milios (Physiotherapist) and then without realising became a global resource for men’s health

Why it’s time to stop joking about penises and start listening

The emotional side of male sexuality and how assumptions miss the mark

What men really want after prostate cancer (hint: it isn’t just erections)

How patients have reshaped Melissa’s clinical approach over time

Products that have changed lives—and a few that scared her husband

New conversations about sounding, Tantra, and intimacy beyond intercourse

What Melissa hopes to do with the next 200 episodes—and who she dreams she will interview next and her dream to be interviewed by….

In This Episode, We Cover:

How the podcast began as a way to help patients and became so much more

Learning from patients about loss, masculinity, and connection

Rethinking the urgency of "getting it up" and embracing broader definitions of intimacy

The importance of not making assumptions as clinicians

Sex toys and tools Melissa now recommends—and the ones she avoids

What a Tantra workshop has taught her about relationships

Sounding: safety, stigma, and why we need to talk about it

The power of podcasts to create change and community connection

Key Takeaways:

Empathy, humour and curiosity matter more than bravado

Real stories help others feel seen, supported, and less alone

Sexual health is about connection, not just erections

There is no one-size-fits-all solution, but there is always a way forward

Expert Insight from Melissa Hadley Barrett: "My goal is to open up the conversation. Whether it’s about erectile dysfunction, sex after cancer, or pleasure in new ways. Men and their partners deserve honest support and practical options. This podcast has become my passion project, and it’s changed how I practice. Most of all I want to thank the people who have let us interview them for sharing stories and teaching me so much I could never have learnt from a book or another health professional. I hope my patients and listeners realise how important they are to me, my growth as a human and as a health professional."

Useful Mentions:

FirmTech erection ring ("Fitbit for your dick")https://rshealth.com.au/shop/p/firmtech-techring , Manta by The Fun Factory https://rshealth.com.au/shop/p/fun-factory-manta-deep-sea-blue

VaxAid pump – TGA approved hydro pump for ED

Tantra retreats by Sanctuary of Ananda

Beaming Beaver organic lubricant

My Ilo Australian-designed sex toys

Steve "The Poet Who Didn't Know It" and his book Words Woke Me

Resources & Links:

Book a telehealth consult with our sexual health nurse practitioners at Restorative Health Clinic

For more information check out our websites www.rshealth.com.au , www.makehardeasy.com.au and www.melissahadleybarrett.com.au

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