Going through a breakup or recovering from a divorce is one of the most emotionally complex experiences you'll ever face. 

It’s always messy and layered. And if you don’t approach it with the right mindset, you’ll fall back into the old patterns and habits that destroyed your previous relationships. 

That’s the bad news. 

The good news? 

Not only are emotions temporary and fleeting, including the entire grieving process, but it’s possible to rebuild your life and relationships in a way that ensures long-term success in your next relationship. 

It won’t be easy. I know this from my own divorce. But it’s possible. 

And you know what? 

By the end of this episode, you'll understand exactly what it takes to turn the pain of your breakup into fuel for your personal growth. You'll be equipped to rebuild yourself from the ground up, not just so you can get over it, but so that you can step into your next chapter of your life with confidence, clarity and freedom.

Listen now. 

Show Highlights Include:

• Why rushing into your next relationship after a divorce or break up is a recipe for a similar outcome (and what to do instead to fully heal yourself first) (1:20) 
• How relying on time alone to heal deep emotional wounds sabotages your ability to connect with others (1:50)  
• The 5 stages of a relationship—and how to master each separate stage (4:48) 
• Why feeling like your relationship is doomed to failure is an important step that can actually deepen your connection (6:22)  
• The “mirrors” secret to relationships that can either unlock significant personal growth or cause unbridled resentment for your partner (10:08) 
• Why a relationship built on passion is destined to crumble into shambles (and what to build your relationship on instead to sustain it for the rest of your life) (10:52) 
• How taking responsibility for your ex messing up allows you to use your heartbreak to become stronger and more resilient for your next relationship (12:54) 
• 3 safe ways to express your anger so it doesn’t fester under the surface and cause more serious outbursts (20:19) 
• The weird way your furniture, music playlists, and old habits from your last relationship can undermine your next relationship (23:16) 
• The “self-surgery” mindset shift that will help you emotionally recover from a divorce or break up faster and with fewer obstacles (29:36) 

For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ 

Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery