SuperPsyched with Dr. Adam Dorsay #267 Intimacy & Mindfulness | James Cordova, PhD
In this episode of SuperPsyched, Dr. Adam Dorsay interviews Dr. James Cordova, a distinguished professor of psychology and author of 'The Mindful Path to Intimacy'. They discuss the true meaning and importance of intimacy beyond just eroticism, exploring how intimacy is rooted in vulnerability met with warmth. They delve into how couples can navigate this delicate aspect of relationships through mindful practices, communication, and emotional vulnerability. Dr. Cordova also touches on the 'porcupine's dilemma' and how intimacy can be built and maintained through mutual understanding and compassion. Listen in for insightful tips on fostering deeper connections and keeping the fire alive in long-term relationships.
00:00 Welcome to SuperPsyched
00:28 Understanding Intimacy
00:51 Introducing Dr. James Cordova
00:45 Defining Intimacy
04:47 Intimacy vs. Eroticism
06:59 The Role of Vulnerability
16:16 The Porcupine's Dilemma
20:29 Relationship Health Checkups
23:40 Questions for Couples
24:49 John Gottman's Contributions
25:09 The Golden Ratio in Relationships
25:47 The Golden and Gray Balls Metaphor
28:20 The Porcupine's Dilemma
31:43 The Importance of Gratitude
34:12 Navigating Intimacy and Vulnerability
38:51 Improving Your Sex Life
44:31 The Practice of Savoring
46:42 Final Thoughts and Resources
Helpful Links:"
The Mindful Path to Intimacy: Cultivating a Deeper Connection with Your Partner” Book