550: Conscience Contorted by Dad’s Abuse Unreported | Feedback Friday
Aug 20, 2021
The discussion dives into the complexities of childhood trauma and self-forgiveness, particularly about not reporting parental abuse. Listeners explore strategies for overcoming self-hatred tied to familial manipulation. A weight loss journey is also examined, emphasizing the challenge of external influences on personal goals. The conversation touches on legal complexities following a loved one's death and the struggles of young people seeking internships in a competitive job market, wrapped in a supportive and reflective atmosphere.
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Outside Perspective
Give advice to yourself as if you were advising someone else with your exact problems.
This removes emotional baggage and clarifies the best course of action.
insights INSIGHT
Misdirected Anger
Misdirected anger at yourself can stem from an inability to be angry with those who hurt you.
Explore the roots of your anger in therapy to understand its true source.
volunteer_activism ADVICE
Self-Compassion for Past Trauma
Have compassion for your younger self in difficult circumstances.
Don't blame yourself as a child for not knowing how to handle abuse and enabling.
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Your father was physically violent toward you and your brother on at least two occasions that would have warranted police intervention, but your also-abusive mother begged you not to call them. Years later, how can you reframe the anger you have toward yourself for putting up with your mother's manipulations and not reporting your father's abuse to the police when you had a chance? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday!
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Thought exercise: If you met someone exactly like yourself, what advice would you give them?
How can you stop hating yourself for not calling the police on your physically abusive dad -- at the behest of your also-abusive mom -- years ago?
How can you stick to your own weight loss goals when the people surrounding you (including your obese spouse) keep enabling you to make every day a cheat day?
A friend passed away recently, and her husband (who wasn't on good terms with her parents) isn't on the deed to their house. Are there any spousal rights that could entitle him to the equity? [Once again, thanks to Corbin Payne for helping us with this one!]
As a college student, it seems difficult to develop valuable professional connections if you don't already have a job or internship, and it’s hard to get jobs or internships if you don’t have the connections. What can you do?
When you've got a somewhat high-profile Internet presence, how should you deal with the inevitable (and anonymously cowardly) haters?
Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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