The Secure Love Podcast with Julie Menanno Session 16: "Full Breathable Lungs": The Power of Vulnerability
Dec 23, 2025
This session dives into the power of vulnerability as Brian confronts his perfectionism and childhood wounds. A seemingly trivial argument about mulch uncovers deep-seated feelings of inadequacy. Bethany offers unexpected support during a family crisis, highlighting empathy in relationships. Together, they challenge the belief that vulnerability is a weakness, leading Brian to a liberating realization. The episode invites listeners to reflect on their own hidden weaknesses and share them with their partners for connection.
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Crisis Tag-Team Builds Trust
- Bethany dropped everything to get shoelaces and makeup for Brian's daughter when the mother got sick and the performance was imminent.
- Their smooth tag-team handling showed growing trust and fewer negative cycles between them.
Perfectionism Masks Deeper Shame
- Brian's perfectionism shows up in small things like mulch and Play-Doh but signals deeper anxiety about being "less than."
- Those perfectionist efforts are attempts to avoid shame and prove worthiness.
Respond With Empathy, Not Judgment
- When a partner reveals a tender wound, respond with empathy and offer to help rather than judge.
- Validate the feeling and say what it activates in you to strengthen connection.