Win the Day 162. I’m Dying to Tell You with Dr. Mark Goulston (renowned psychiatrist) 🧠
“The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.” — Mark Twain
Dr. Mark Goulston is a leading psychiatrist and communication expert. His mega-bestseller, Just Listen, is regarded as the world's #1 book on listening.
Among his extensive list of professional achievements, Dr. Goulston has been a hostage negotiation trainer for the FBI; a consultant for renowned companies (including Goldman Sachs, Merrill Lynch, and Disney); a contributor to the Harvard Business Review; and author of 9 books that have been translated into 28 languages.
Since we first met in Episode 109, Dr. Goulston has become a close friend and mentor of mine. He's exceptionally good at what he does and I look forward to any opportunity we get to catch up.
Recently, Dr. Goulston was given some unexpected news that made him rethink everything he's doing in his life. I asked if he'd be up for a conversation on the podcast so we could talk about that openly and help others who might be in a similar situation...
Like he has done with every request I've asked of him, he graciously agreed.
In this episode:
- How to save your marriage and create happiness with your family
- A simple exercise to win every day
- The gift of death – and the urgency of doing good; and
- How to get clear on what’s most important to you, before it’s too late.
Let’s WIN THE DAY with Dr. Mark Goulston!
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🎬 4K video version: https://youtu.be/gjGlYnp4hcg
📖 Blog version: https://jameswhitt.com/dying-to-tell-you-dr-mark-goulston
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Show links:
🧠 Ep 109: Win Your Mental Health with Dr. Mark Goulston
⚡ Dr. Mark Goulston website
📷 Dr. Mark Goulston Instagram
📚 Dr. Mark Goulston books on Amazon
❣️ Preventing the Seven Year Itch 2.0
🎤 TEDx Talk ‘What Made You Smile Today?’ by Mark Goulston
🍏 Enroll in the Win the Day Accelerator
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Timemarkers:
0:16 Who is Dr. Mark Goulston
1:57 Interview starts
2:24 What Mark is dying to tell you
5:10 What a fixed timeframe for death teaches you about life
8:12 Give people the gift of caring about you
12:17 The 3 D’s of being a visionary thinker
14:04 Visionary dying
16:14 The Saber Six Foundation
18:09 How to control your emotional triggers
23:49 Mark’s approach to suicide prevention (surgical empathy)
26:05 The power of perspective
29:35 Spreading positivity through presence
33:21 What Mark wants his children to remember
34:34 How to keep your marriage strong when you’ve got young kids
39:39 Being reactive can destroy almost everything
41:20 How do you know if you should divorce or not
43:40 The secret to being good in conflict
46:05 How to assess the quality of your life
48:25 The top two ways to be accountable for any goal
49:37 Rocket Round
54:36 Susan Cain
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PS — In case you missed it: Living with Honor with Nina Aouilk (leading activist to end human trafficking and honor killing): Ep 158