162. I’m Dying to Tell You with Dr. Mark Goulston (renowned psychiatrist) 🧠

“The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.” — Mark Twain

Dr. Mark Goulston is a leading psychiatrist and communication expert. His mega-bestseller, Just Listen, is regarded as the world's #1 book on listening.

Among his extensive list of professional achievements, Dr. Goulston has been a hostage negotiation trainer for the FBI; a consultant for renowned companies (including Goldman Sachs, Merrill Lynch, and Disney); a contributor to the Harvard Business Review; and author of 9 books that have been translated into 28 languages.

Since we first met in Episode 109, Dr. Goulston has become a close friend and mentor of mine. He's exceptionally good at what he does and I look forward to any opportunity we get to catch up.

Recently, Dr. Goulston was given some unexpected news that made him rethink everything he's doing in his life. I asked if he'd be up for a conversation on the podcast so we could talk about that openly and help others who might be in a similar situation...

Like he has done with every request I've asked of him, he graciously agreed.

In this episode:

• How to save your marriage and create happiness with your family
• A simple exercise to win every day
• The gift of death – and the urgency of doing good; and
• How to get clear on what’s most important to you, before it’s too late.

Let’s WIN THE DAY with Dr. Mark Goulston!

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🎬 4K video version: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://youtu.be/gjGlYnp4hcg

📖 Blog version: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://jameswhitt.com/dying-to-tell-you-dr-mark-goulston

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Show links:

🧠 Ep 109: Win Your Mental Health with Dr. Mark Goulston

⚡ Dr. Mark Goulston website

📷 Dr. Mark Goulston Instagram

📚 Dr. Mark Goulston books on Amazon

❣️ Preventing the Seven Year Itch 2.0

🎤 TEDx Talk ‘What Made You Smile Today?’ by Mark Goulston

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Timemarkers:

0:16 Who is Dr. Mark Goulston

1:57 Interview starts

2:24 What Mark is dying to tell you

5:10 What a fixed timeframe for death teaches you about life

8:12 Give people the gift of caring about you

12:17 The 3 D’s of being a visionary thinker

14:04 Visionary dying

16:14 The Saber Six Foundation

18:09 How to control your emotional triggers

23:49 Mark’s approach to suicide prevention (surgical empathy)

26:05 The power of perspective

29:35 Spreading positivity through presence

33:21 What Mark wants his children to remember

34:34 How to keep your marriage strong when you’ve got young kids

39:39 Being reactive can destroy almost everything

41:20 How do you know if you should divorce or not

43:40 The secret to being good in conflict

46:05 How to assess the quality of your life

48:25 The top two ways to be accountable for any goal

49:37 Rocket Round

54:36 Susan Cain

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PS — In case you missed it: ⁠Living with Honor with Nina Aouilk (leading activist to end human trafficking and honor killing): Ep 158