Thanksgiving and Families: A Talk with Phyllis L. Fagell and Dr. Robyn Silverman

This Thanksgiving episode tackles the inevitable family drama that comes with the holiday. I sat down with parenting experts Phyllis L. Fagell and Dr. Robyn Silverman to get their tips for navigating tricky conversations and situations with family members. We covered how to set expectations beforehand, validate kids' feelings without agreeing, use humor to defuse tense moments, and provide coping tools for when things go off the rails. The goal is to make the holiday more enjoyable for everyone - kids and adults alike! Tune in for practical strategies to make this Thanksgiving drama-free.

I was joined by two of my favorite parenting experts:

·         Phyllis L. Fagell, school counselor and author of “Middle School Superpowers: Raising Resilient Tweens in Turbulent Times”.

·         Dr. Robyn Silverman, child and teen development specialist and author of “How to Talk to Kids about Anything: Tips, Scripts, Stories, and Steps to Make Even the Toughest Conversations Easier”.

Timeline Summary:

[02:00] How to set expectations with family beforehand.

[03:57] Understanding kids' sensitivity around changes in their appearance.

[06:09] Making sure adults are aware of their own triggers.

[09:36] Giving kids an “out” if conversations get uncomfortable.

[12:18] Redirecting family away from constant questions about school.

[14:06] Using humor and screens to diffuse tense moments.

[18:08] Coaching kids on sharing funny videos/memes.

[19:29] Helping kids not feel “on the spot” in conversations.

[22:10] Getting to know grandparents as real people, not just authority figures.

[23:08] Alternatives to repetitive questions about school.

[27:25] Validating kids' feelings when things go wrong.

[31:53] Agreeing on facts versus feelings.

[33:07] Using different coping mechanisms based on the child.

[35:05] Having distractions/diversions ready when things go downhill.

[35:50] Importance of food and blood sugar levels.

Links & Resources:

·         Washington Post Article: Getting silly with your kids is vital. Here’s how to get play into your day.

·         Phyllis L. Fagell: https://phyllisfagell.com/ 

·         Dr. Robyn Silverman: 

o   Website: https://www.drrobynsilverman.com 

o   Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/DrRobynSilverman/ 

I hope these practical tips help make Thanksgiving a little smoother for your family! If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to rate, follow, share, and review. Happy Thanksgiving!

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