Life Kit To give better advice, try less fixing and more listening
Feb 25, 2020
John Paul Brammer, an insightful advice columnist known for "Hola Poppy," shares his perspective on giving good advice, especially within the LGBTQ community. He emphasizes that effective support relies more on listening than just fixing problems. The conversation explores the art of empathetic advice, touching on the balance of self-care while assisting others. Brammer discusses the importance of setting boundaries in supportive relationships, stressing that genuine connections and attentive listening can create a more compassionate and meaningful dialogue.
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Body Language Tips
- Use open body language when giving advice, like keeping hands visible and making eye contact.
- Acknowledge any closed-off postures due to external factors like being cold.
Control Your Reactions
- Avoid reacting with shock or strong facial expressions to someone's problems.
- Take deep breaths to stay calm and mindful of your body language.
Be Present
- Put away electronic devices and give the advice-seeker your full attention.
- Letting calls go to voicemail demonstrates that they are your priority.