The Terri Cole Show 722 From Savior to Supporter: How Your Presence Helps More Than Unsolicited, Well-Meaning Advice
Jun 3, 2025
Explore the fine line between being a savior and a genuine supporter in relationships. Discover the detrimental effects of a savior mentality, including dependency and burnout. Learn how to shift your mindset to empower others, fostering their personal autonomy. Dive into the importance of cultivating healthy interdependence instead of trying to fix those who are struggling. This conversation offers eye-opening insights that encourage authentic connections and meaningful support.
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Saving Undermines Autonomy
- Saving someone often unintentionally robs them of their own power and autonomy.
- It can trample boundaries, foster dependency, and leave both parties exhausted and resentful.
Interrupting Emotional Expression
- A friend stopped her husband's emotional expression by hugging him during tough news.
- This interrupted intimacy and demonstrated discomfort with witnessing pain.
Savior vs Supporter Traits
- Savors solve problems and assume they know best, while supporters empower others and trust their knowledge.
- Supporters respect autonomy and nurture resilience, unlike saviors who create dependency.