Life Kit 5 questions to ask your partner before getting hitched
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Mar 14, 2023 
Carol Brees, a marriage social scientist and professor emerita from the University of St. Thomas, shares crucial insights on pre-marital conversations. She emphasizes five essential questions that reveal core values about conflict, gender roles, and finances. The discussion delves into the evolution of marriage, highlighting its shift from a mere contract to a partnership. Brees also stresses the importance of balancing autonomy and connection, advocating for intentional communication rituals to nurture lasting bonds. Perfect for couples looking to deepen their understanding before tying the knot!
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Modern Marriage Expectations
- Modern marriages expect partners to fulfill many roles, creating potential for both joy and disappointment.
- This contemporary view, while offering greater fulfillment, can be unrealistic and lead to conflict.
Identify Your Needs
- Identify your needs in a relationship, both big and small.
- Work with a therapist to define your "lowercase d" everyday preferences and "uppercase D" essential needs.
Fishing and Yoga
- Carol Bruess's husband's essential need was fishing trips, which initially caused conflict.
- Understanding this as fulfilling his soul, like yoga for Carol, helped them prioritize each other's well-being.