Is it cheating if you go to sex club… but just to watch?
What about a flirty Snapchat streak with your ex?
A prostate massage with no orgasm? 👀
This week, we’re back with Part 2 of one of our most talked-about episodes. We asked our community to share the moments, confessions, and curveballs that made them ask, “Wait…is this cheating?”
And let’s just say… the gray areas are graying HARD.
Here’s what we’re dishing on in this episode:
- Is emotional intimacy outside your relationship OK?
- When fantasies, DMs, or even Reddit lurking crosses the line.
- Are AI-generated nudes of your partner’s family the point of no return?
- Why intention and secrecy matter more than the act itself.
- The emotional toll “nothing happened” takes on a relationship.
- The difference between curiosity and disrespect when exploring sexually.
No matter how you define cheating, one thing’s clear: these kinds of conversations are hard, and they don’t get easier without the right tools.
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