Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

Strict Is Loving

Sep 10, 2024

Janet, an advocate for respectful parenting, dives into the common misconceptions about strictness in child-rearing. She reveals how firm boundaries are, in fact, a display of genuine love, not harshness. Janet explains the importance of balancing discipline with nurturing, showing how this approach fosters emotional resilience. She shares practical strategies for maintaining control in public settings and stresses the need for self-care among parents to build healthy family dynamics. Discover how a structured approach can transform bedtime routines and tantrums into opportunities for connection.

32:35

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Janet

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Quick takeaways

Creating a nurturing environment requires establishing well-defined boundaries, which fosters security and authentic emotional expression in children.

Parents are encouraged to embrace a leadership role in discipline, balancing firmness with empathy to navigate conflicts effectively.

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The Importance of Firm Boundaries

Establishing well-defined boundaries is crucial in creating a nurturing environment for children. The speaker emphasizes that being strict does not equate to harshness; rather, it involves holding strong to rules and expectations. By maintaining these boundaries, parents foster a sense of security within their children, enabling them to express their feelings authentically. This space for expression is vital, as it allows children to feel safe in exploring emotions without parents capitulating to avoid discomfort.

Intro

2min

The Balance of Strictness and Compassion in Parenting

14min

Establishing Boundaries and Expectations for Children in Public

8min

The Importance of Self-Care in Parenting

2min

Navigating Tantrums and Bedtime Routines Effectively

10min

Janet's "all feelings allowed" approach to parenting is sometimes misconstrued as permissive, passive, lax on boundaries. But as Janet clarifies in this episode, the exact opposite is true! She describes how acquiescing to our kids' whims and demands, giving them multiple chances to comply with our directions, or making it our job to console them when our rules disappoint can be a set-up for failure for our kids and us. She explains how respectful parenting is actually quite strict, and why, in her view, strict is much kinder and more loving than the alternative, builds better relationships, and encourages lifelong emotional resiliency in our kids.

Learn more about Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" at: NoBadKidsCourse.com.

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