PsycHacks Episode 559: She can cry (how to deal with an emotional woman)
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Oct 6, 2025 Discover the nuances of emotional autonomy as men learn that women have the right to express their feelings without needing to be fixed. Explore why a woman's tears can trigger discomfort in men and how rewarding such emotions may reinforce future crying. Silence can often be the best response, allowing emotional self-regulation. Orion introduces 'dad sense' to help determine when to intervene or simply provide reassurance. Reflecting on our reactions to tears offers a pathway for personal growth and understanding in relationships.
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Emotions Are Her Responsibility
- Orion Taraban argues that a woman has a right to feel any emotion, including sadness or happiness.
- Trying to change her emotional state treats emotions as wrong instead of permissible experiences.
The 'Thumbscrew' Vulnerability
- Taraban describes a "thumbscrew": an emotion someone finds intolerable and thus susceptible to manipulation.
- For many men, a crying woman is that thumbscrew and prompts overreactions that reinforce crying.
Default To Nonaction
- Do nothing by default when a woman cries; let her feel her feelings without rushing to fix them.
- Accept that emotional self-regulation is her responsibility even if she struggles with it.
