Episode 416: How ADHD Affects Women In The Bedroom

Jul 22, 2025

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How does ADHD affect women’s sexual and romantic relationships? In this episode, we’ll explore some of the most common issues that come up in the bedroom for women with ADHD, the problem with only relying on medication to help, as well as what women with ADHD and their partners need to know about cultivating supportive environments that are more conducive to pleasure.

I am joined by Dr. Leann Borneman, a licensed clinical social worker, AASECT certified sex therapist, professor, and clinical sexology researcher. She specializes in the intersection of ADHD, relationships, and sexuality. Leann runs the podcast ADHD Realities and is currently writing a book on ADHD and low sexual desire.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

How common is it for women to have ADHD?
Why is ADHD typically diagnosed so much later in women than men?
What are the most common sex problems that women with ADHD experience?
What is “executive dysfunction” and how does it contribute to low desire?
What are some ways women with ADHD can approach sex so that it works with their brains, and not against them?

You can check out Leann’s website to learn more about her.

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