Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

Sibling Strife - When Your Child Keeps Hating On Her Little Brother

Sep 8, 2020

A parent struggles with her 5-year-old's aggression towards her younger brother since his birth. The podcast dives into sibling rivalry, detailing the emotional turmoil both children face. Insights on fostering empathy and reducing conflict are shared, offering parents valuable strategies to navigate these complex family dynamics. It highlights the importance of understanding emotional development in siblings and provides actionable tips for improving their relationship.

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Understanding that aggressive behavior in siblings often stems from emotional distress can help parents respond compassionately rather than punitively.

Validating children's feelings during conflicts fosters emotional security and healthier coping mechanisms, ultimately improving behavior and relationships.

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Addressing Sibling Violence

The podcast emphasizes the challenges a parent faces when dealing with a child's aggressive behavior towards a sibling, particularly when the older sibling exhibits physical violence and verbal taunts. This behavior often arises from complex emotions related to jealousy, fear, and the adjustment of a new family dynamic with the arrival of another child. The podcast advocates for compassionate understanding rather than simply punitive responses, suggesting that the child’s actions stem from a place of emotional distress and confusion. The importance of providing a safe, empathetic atmosphere for both children is highlighted, aiming to facilitate emotional healing and prevent further behavioral escalation.

Navigating Sibling Rivalry: Strategies for Emotional Balance

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A parent writes that her 5-year-old has never recovered from the arrival of her younger brother (now 3.5 yrs). “Since he was born, she has subjected him to physical violence and verbal taunting.” She describes her daughter as bright and strong-willed, and her son as gentle, loving and forgiving. She says she has tried everything to help her daughter manage her emotions more appropriately, including psychologists, but the behavior persists no matter what she says or does. “It breaks my heart.” She believes both her children are in pain and she’s looking to Janet for advice and perhaps some strategies she hasn’t tried.

For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ.

Paperbacks and e-books are also available at Amazon, Google Play, Barnes & Noble and Apple Books.

Janet's exclusive audio series "Sessions" is available for download. This is a collection of recorded one-on-one consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (www.SessionsAudio.com).

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