Life Kit Frustrated by a relationship? Questions to ask yourself to move forward
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Oct 21, 2025 KC Davis, a licensed therapist and author of *Who Deserves Your Love?*, dives into navigating messy relationships. She shares insightful questions to help assess whether to stay or step back from a relationship. KC discusses emotional unavailability and caregiving challenges, emphasizing the importance of identifying harm and assessing willingness to change. She also explores how to set healthy boundaries while maintaining connections, offering practical strategies for self-care. This conversation offers a thoughtful guide for anyone feeling stuck.
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Clarify Why It Bothers You
- Ask yourself why this person's behavior is objectionable to you to distinguish harm from preference.
- Dig deeper to see if your reaction comes from personal values, upbringing, or external pressure.
Check Willingness To Change
- If a behavior harms you, ask whether the person is willing to change and take collaborative action.
- Look for concrete steps like therapy, reading, or agreed safety pauses rather than dismissive responses.
Differentiate Willingness From Capacity
- Sometimes capacity, not willingness, explains harmful behavior, like dementia or severe mental illness.
- Use relationship history to judge responsibility when capacity is limited.
