This book, written by clinical psychologist Lindsay C. Gibson, exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. It helps readers understand how such parents create a sense of neglect and provides ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by their childhood. The book identifies four types of difficult parents: the emotional parent, the driven parent, the passive parent, and the rejecting parent. It offers practical advice and exercises for identifying one's true self, avoiding harmful self-images and relationships, and interacting with emotionally immature parents in a healthier manner. The book aims to help readers recover their true nature, control their reactions to their parents, and build positive new relationships[1][2][4].
This book offers 12 revolutionary strategies to help parents nurture their child's developing mind. It introduces the concepts of the 'upstairs brain' (higher-order cognitive functions) and the 'downstairs brain' (more primal emotional responses), emphasizing the importance of integrating these two brain regions for self-regulation and wise decision-making. The authors provide age-appropriate strategies to deal with day-to-day struggles, help children integrate their memories, and build positive, nurturing relationships. The book also highlights the value of viewing mistakes as opportunities for growth and teaching important skills through everyday parenting challenges[2][4][5].
In Hunt, Gather, Parent, Michaeleen Doucleff travels with her three-year-old daughter to learn parenting strategies from families in Maya, Inuit, and Hadzabe communities. She discovers that these cultures raise children who are exceptionally kind, generous, and confident without the common problems seen in Western parenting. The book emphasizes a parenting approach based on cooperation, trust, and personalized needs rather than control and fear. Doucleff introduces the concept of TEAM parenting: togetherness, encouragement, autonomy, and minimal interference, and provides practical takeaways for parents to implement these strategies in their own lives.
We all want our kids to grow up confident and self-sufficient. But by doing too much and protecting our kids from failure, so many well-meaning moms and dads end up discouraging the autonomy they want their kids to achieve. Welcome to the first episode of an ongoing conversation with my friend and fave, Michaeleen Doucleff, author of the phenomenal book Hunt, Gather, Parent. We use real stories from my Mastermind Parents to help us find antidotes to the performative, perfectionist parenting models we’re trying to overturn.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The key mindset shift that will help you develop a mutually respectful, collaborative connection with your children.
- What happens when you stop trying to find the perfect script and start talking to your kids like full human beings.
- Why parents who do the most for their kids wind up raising little anxious humans.
- How the strategies we use to motivate and reward our kiddos actually push down their natural drive to help out.
And much more!
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About Randi Rubenstein
Randi Rubenstein helps parents with a strong-willed kiddo become a happier family and enjoy the simple things again like bike rides and beach vacays.
She’s the founder of Mastermind Parenting, host of the Mastermind Parenting podcast, and author of The Parent Gap. Randi works with parents across the U.S.
At Mastermind Parenting, we believe every human deserves to have a family that gets along.
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About Michaleen Doucleff:
- Michaleen Doucleff is an award-winning global health correspondent and the author of Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans. https://michaeleendoucleff.com/hunt-gather-parent/
Resources Discussed/Links
Jonathan Haidt’s upcoming book The Anxious Generation https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/729231/the-anxious-generation-by-jonathan-haidt
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, by Lindsay C. Gibson https://www.newharbinger.com/9781626251700/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents/
The Whole Brain Child, by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. & Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D. https://www.tinabryson.com/thewholebrainchild
Our 12-week Basics Bootcamp program is now available as a 100% online self-study course! https://mastermindparenting.com/minimasters/
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