Sexvangelicals S9E03: Ask a Sex Therapist: Does Planning Sex Kill the Vibe?
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Mar 24, 2025 Join a lively discussion about the balance between planned and spontaneous sex. Discover how intentionality can enhance intimacy and satisfaction. The hosts explore the cultural influences shaping sexual expectations and the importance of open communication. They delve into ageism, vulnerability, and the dynamics of sexual satisfaction. By challenging norms around spontaneity, they promote a healthier understanding of sexual experiences, encouraging partners to celebrate connection over performance.
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Vibes Can Be Misleading
- "Vibes" in sex can be misleading, hindering clear communication and self-awareness.
- Focus on concrete markers of a good experience instead of relying on elusive vibes.
Spontaneous Sex and Long-Term Relationships
- Spontaneous sex relies on vibes and is idealized in media, setting unrealistic expectations.
- In long-term relationships, spontaneous sex becomes less realistic and potentially less satisfying.
Planned Sex in St. Dennis Medical
- In the sitcom St. Dennis Medical, a couple planning sex is initially mocked.
- This reflects the negative portrayal of planned sex in media, suggesting a lack of spark.
