040. Kill Your Superman To Find Your Wonder Woman - The Relationship Renegades

Just in time for Valentine's Day, I got a chance to sit down with the Relationship Renegades (@Relationship Renegades); Emilio Palafox (@emilio_palafox) and Rachele Brooke Smith (@rbrookesmith). These two are on a mission to reframe how relationships are viewed and could be. We always hear the following comments: "My wife is such a B****," "there's no good guys out there for me," "don't fall in love, it always ends in heartbreak," etc etc etc. But what if your relationships could be amazing? What if you and your partner formed such a powerful bond that none of these silly comments would ever come out of your mouth, because you knew through thick and thin, life is beautiful, bountiful, and the two of you form a synergy beyond what just one person could accomplish? What if instead of being in a relationship that you HAVE to be in for some unknown reasons, you GET to be in and you're the luckiest person in the world. Like Tony Robbins says, "life isn't happening to us, life is happening for us." A common phrase they like to use is "Kill Your Superman to Find Your Wonder Woman." In essence, we need to kill our own egos and not care so much about being right, but changing our focus to being happy. The game of life is infinite, and when play for short wins and remain short sighted, and are too busy keeping the score, you'll miss out on the amazing things happening around you. This was a powerful episode about love, enhancing communication with your significant other, and transforming your relationship to the next level.

Timeline

6:00- Why we are being programmed to be in bad relationships 
8:15 - Why you should “Kill your Superman to find your Wonder Woman"
12:45 - Why we fall into toxic relationships
17:45 - My own journey with self-compassion
22:35 - Would you rather be right, or would you rather be happy?
25:30 - How to communicate with your loved one even during chaos
34:50 - We don’t always attract what we think about but who we are
38:55 - Stop dating others. Start dating yourself
43:30 - The key motivation to all relationships
51:00 - How our upbringing can shape our relationships 
53:26 - The 5 C’s of a healthy, thriving relationship
56:12 - The most common theme underlying all relationship problems
1:05:10 - Some new exciting projects for the Relationship Renegades

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