People don't fall in love with individual characteristics, but with the overall package a person presents.
Embracing one's unique story and not comparing oneself to others based on superficial features can lead to self-acceptance and attract the right person.
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People fall in love with a package, not just features
In this podcast episode, the speaker emphasizes that people don't fall in love with individual features, but rather with the overall package a person presents. It is revealed that many individuals feel anxious or insecure when comparing themselves to others in their partner's life. However, the speaker emphasizes that a person's value is not based on their physical appearance or specific characteristics. Instead, it is a combination of their personality, history, supportiveness, and unique qualities that make up their complete package. The speaker encourages individuals to understand that if someone chooses to leave for what they deem as a more attractive or accomplished package, it signifies that the person leaving was never truly seeking a meaningful relationship.
Embrace your own story and love your journey
Another significant point discussed in the podcast is the importance of embracing one's own story and not comparing oneself to others based on superficial features. The speaker suggests adopting the concept of 'amor-fati,' which means loving your fate and appreciating the ups and downs, battles fought, and personal growth achieved. The emphasis is on valuing and being proud of the internal battles won and the character development that comes with it. By loving oneself and accepting their unique journey, individuals can reduce the need for comparison and not worry about how they stack up against others in terms of outward appearances. Furthermore, it is highlighted that the right person for someone will be the one who falls in love with their entire story, including all the ups and downs.
It's easy to find yourself comparing your attractiveness to others in dating. We compare our looks, our job, our body, our wealth...and we can easily feel like we don't match up. But people don't fall in love with characteristics. And comparison will always leave us with more anxiety and self-sabotage than learning to love what we have. In this episode, Matt and Stephen discuss the problem of comparison and what really makes someone fall for you. --- Follow Matt @thematthewhussey Follow Stephen @stephenhhussey --- ►► Stop Waiting and Start Creating the Happiness You Deserve NOW - Claim your spot on my Virtual Retreat, June 2 - 4, 2023 → MHVirtualRetreat.com
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