218. “Our childcare costs are about to quadruple. Are we screwed?” (Part 2)

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Jul 22, 2025

A couple grapples with rising childcare costs and communication breakdowns in their finances. As they explore their emotional dynamics, the strain of their Arizona home symbolizes broader financial challenges. Dominique's struggle with overthinking complicates their situation, while Chris's disengagement creates resentment. The conversation shifts to the pitfalls of whole life insurance and the importance of strategic financial planning. With just two months of savings, they must confront their reality and begin building a healthier financial future together.

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INSIGHT

High Income Doesn't Secure Finances

High income doesn't guarantee financial security without proper money management.
Lack of understanding about basic finance can lead to costly mistakes like buying whole life insurance.

INSIGHT

Shift From Problem to Solution

Being problem-oriented feels productive but traps couples in cycles of negativity.
Shifting focus to solutions is critical for meaningful financial progress.

ADVICE

Slash Fixed Costs Strategically

Cut unnecessary subscriptions to reduce monthly expenses.
Set realistic goals to lower grocery spending and fixed costs.

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Last week, we met Dominique (33) and Chris (34)—a couple earning $180K a year, raising a toddler, and still living paycheck to paycheck. Dominique felt alone in managing their finances, while Chris stayed disengaged, assuming things were fine.

In Part One, we uncovered the cracks: a lack of communication, zero long-term planning, and growing resentment. Now, as their childcare costs are about to quadruple, will they be able to move past survival mode and start working as a team? Will Chris finally step up—and can Dominique let go of overthinking and accept support?

In this episode we uncover:

• How their expensive Arizona house became a symbol of both pride and financial strain.

• The quiet resentment Dominique feels when Chris is out of work—and why she kept it to herself.

• A surprising disconnect around how much they contribute—and who’s really paying more.

• Ramit’s reality check about going month to month on a six-figure income.

• Why Dominique’s overthinking makes her feel in control—but leaves them stuck in place.

• The false sense of security that’s masking a dangerous truth: They have just two months of savings.

• The emotional cost of living reactively—and what it will take for them to finally plan ahead.

Chapters:

(00:00:00) “My friend sold it to me…” — the truth about whole life insurance

(00:09:05) Investing, saving… or just surviving?

(00:14:58) Problem-oriented vs. solution-oriented

(00:22:11) Ramit breaks down their numbers

(00:26:14) He’s living for his son—but what about himself?

(00:38:32) What if selling your house meant losing money?

(00:43:13) “I thought I’d be co-parenting by now”

(00:52:38) Dominique & Chris 2.0: Confident. Open. Together.

(01:03:30) Where are they now? Dominique and Chris’s follow-ups

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