“If You Have Sex, You Can Talk About Checks” with Jason Tartick
Apr 1, 2024
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Author Jason Tartick joins to discuss money in relationships, from financial infidelity to prenups. Tips on learning partner's financial personality and red flags. Signs of lying about money, approaching tough conversations, and questions to ask before moving in together. Hosts announce 2024 tour, answer listener question, and share funny bathroom mishap stories.
Financial conversations are crucial in relationships to prevent conflicts and misunderstandings.
Use fun questions to ease into discussions about financial habits and values in relationships.
Identifying personal money red flags can lead to self-awareness and financial growth.
Deep dives
Easing into the Money Talk
Bringing up the money conversation can be tricky. Jason's book opens with a relatable story of the pitfalls of financial conversations, emphasizing the importance of addressing these topics early on in relationships to avoid future conflicts.
Fun Money Conversation Starters
Jason offers a refreshing approach by providing fun questions like 'What's one thing you overspend on until you're broke?' and 'If you won a million bucks, what's the first thing you'd buy?' These questions help couples ease into discussing their financial habits in a lighthearted manner.
Money Red Flags
Jason's insightful question about identifying personal money red flags prompts introspection. For example, the acknowledgment of overspending on clothing provides a starting point for self-awareness and potential financial growth.
Financial Planning and Retirement Goals
Through practical examples and charts, Jason emphasizes the importance of aligning spending habits with retirement goals. By exploring retirement savings checkpoints based on income and age, readers are encouraged to take proactive steps towards financial security and planning.
The Importance of Financial Communication in Relationships
Discussing financial matters and planning as a couple is crucial in avoiding misunderstandings and potential conflicts. The podcast episode highlights the significance of open and honest conversations about money, joint assets, and financial decisions. Encouraging transparency and setting clear agreements can help ensure financial stability and prevent issues like unpaid loans or unprotected joint assets from causing conflict.
Negotiation Tips for Financial Discussions
The podcast introduces negotiation strategies from a former FBI hostage negotiator, Chris Voss, to navigate difficult financial conversations effectively. Tips include reframing questions to elicit a negative response, maintaining a calm tone to prevent defensiveness, and avoiding 'why' questions that trigger defensive reactions. Utilizing empathy, listening carefully, and adjusting tone and speed can enhance communication and trust in discussions about money and financial decisions.
It’s another episode about money, honey! We are so excited to be joined by Jason Tartick, author of the new book Talk Money to Me, to break down so many important money topics when it comes to relationships. We’re discussing financial infidelity (what it is and how many people commit it), why money issues affect your sex life, recognizing red flags, the truth about prenups, and more. He gives us some fun questions you can ask to learn more about a partner's financial personality, and also the 8 (more serious) things you need to know about someone before moving in with them. We even go over signs that someone is lying about money, and tips for approaching tough conversations in the best way. Before Jason joins us, we’re announcing our 2024 tour (!!!), answering a listeners’ question about her fiancé hijacking their registry, and Rayna shares a traumatic bathroom incident. Enjoy! Follow Jason on instagram @jason_tartick, order his book Talk Money to Me, and listen to his podcast Trading Secrets.
