This week, ADHD reWired welcomes Coach Dana Crews back on the podcast! In this episode, Eric and Dana have a vulnerable and open conversation about navigating conflict, the difference between conflict and disagreements, recognizing emotions, and making space for people we love but may also–at times–disagree with!

Find more from Dana:

All about Dana at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews (click here!)
Second Arrow ADHD Coaching at secondarrowadhdcoaching.com (click here!)
ADHD reWired Episode 498: Will I Ever Be Content? (click here!)

In this episode, you'll hear discussions and tips about:

Is conflict inevitable? What concepts come with conflict? / Thinking about the differences between conflict, disagreements, and avoiding conflict
How can we disagree without the intense emotional state that causes more dysregulation?
Differences between professional, personal, and family conflicts / Difficulties of transitions and the true size of 'problems'
Behaviors based on patterns and experiences even though we're not living in those moments and being stuck living in the past
"We don't have to agree with a person's perspective." / It's not WHAT we're disagreeing about – it's about HOW we're disagreeing.
The importance of acknowledging the other person's feelings / Can I make space? Can I have empathy or compassion for the other person?
Holding space also includes active listening and being present / Mindfulness and grounding to be in the present
Stating intent: What is the goal? Is the goal to be heard? To be right? To be understood? To come to a resolution? A compromise? (The three Hs: Do you need to be heard, hugged, or helped?)
Getting to a place of collaboration, connection, and trust; a lack of conflict isn't necessarily healthy
The power of the pause, non-judgmental awareness, and recognizing one's own tendencies and patterns of behaviors
Starting arguments as a way to stimulate the brain / Feeling understood and also feeling heard can also be stimulating
Getting stimulus sustainably and healthfully without it being stressful, unhealthy, or a detriment to ourselves or our loved ones
Setting boundaries and laying down expectations when needing to take a break to calm down from a conflict / How to come back after taking care of in-the-moment emotions
Possibilities of creative problem solving / Acknowledging one's role in a conflict without blaming
Stepping out of the content of a conflict and separating the emotion from the story you're telling yourself
Identifying and tuning into emotions / "The story I'm telling myself is…" / Avoiding shame & guilt spirals
Leaning into emotion vs. pushing away emotion

Resources & Honorable Mentions

App: How We Feel at howwefeel.org (click here)
Article :: Turn Towards Instead of Away (click here) at gottman.com
Article :: Crucial Conversations Skill Summary (click here)
Book :: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg (Goodreads)
Book :: Rising Strong - Brene Brown (click here)
Website :: The Center of Nonviolent Communication at www.cnvc.org (click here)
Information :: Esther Perel: Understanding and Resolving Conflict (click here)
How to Resolve Conflict (Esther Perel) Masterclass (click here)
Information :: Paul Ekman - Emotions Revealed (click here)

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