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2239: 4 Ways to Stay Connected During Life Transitions by David and Constantino Khalaf of Gottman on Personal Growth

Jul 13, 2024

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Authors David and Constantino Khalaf share practical strategies for staying connected during life transitions, including scheduling couple time, creating rituals, and forgiving quickly. Their insights offer valuable guidance for maintaining strong relationships through inevitable changes.

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Scheduling couple time is crucial for maintaining intimacy during life transitions.

Forgiving quickly and taking turns to support emotional needs are vital for strong relationships.

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Couple Time Scheduling for Connection

During times of transitions, couples often neglect spending quality time together due to disrupted schedules. To counteract this, David and Constantino intentionally schedule a date night every Monday to prioritize their relationship. This act requires effort, like lending their living room for a weekly prayer group to make themselves leave the house. They advise couples to plan activities that foster connection, be it dinner out, engaging in mutual interests, or simply relaxing together, as mundane tasks like running errands can also serve as bonding opportunities.

Navigating Life Transitions in a Relationship

7min

Embracing Transitions for Personal and Relational Growth

1min

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Episode 2239:

Navigating life transitions can be challenging for any relationship. David and Constantino Khalaf share practical strategies such as scheduling couple time, taking turns giving and receiving love, creating rituals, and forgiving quickly to maintain connection and intimacy even during stressful changes. Their experiences and insights offer valuable guidance for sustaining strong, resilient partnerships through life's inevitable shifts.

Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/4-ways-to-stay-connected-during-life-transitions/

Quotes to ponder:

"We’ve had to be intentional about meeting each other’s needs and creating space for affection and intimacy."

"Scheduling couple time outside of your normal routine is an opportunity to connect with each other."

"A willingness to forgive quickly is a repair attempt that helps to avoid the petty conflicts that might further distance us from each other during stressful times."

Episode references:

Hold Me Tight: https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Me-Tight-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/031611300X

The Relationship Cure: https://www.amazon.com/Relationship-Cure-Strengthening-Marriage-Friendships/dp/0609809539

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718

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