Should You Divulge a Disability in Your Dating Profile?

Dec 24, 2024

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Carvell Wallace

Join Carvell Wallace, writer and co-host of "How To", alongside Jessica Slice and Caroline Kupp, authors of "Dateable", as they dive into the complexities of dating with disabilities. They discuss the important yet daunting question of disclosing disabilities like multiple sclerosis on dating profiles. Expect insights on vulnerability, authenticity in relationships, and the societal pressures surrounding ableism. Through personal stories and expert advice, they illuminate the path toward genuine connections and understanding in the dating world.

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ANECDOTE

Filtering in Dating Profiles

Carvell Wallace realized his dating profile should filter people, not attract everyone.
He became more upfront about potentially polarizing traits, like his complicated relationship with sex.

ADVICE

Early Disclosure in Dating

Disclose polarizing traits upfront in dating profiles for better filtering.
This helps find compatible partners and avoids later surprises or incompatibility.

INSIGHT

Todd's Dilemma

Todd, a listener, asks how to disclose his multiple sclerosis (MS) while dating.
He's unsure whether to disclose it on his profile or wait until meeting in person.

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Todd is looking for love, but he’s unsure about disclosing something in dating profiles: his multiple sclerosis. On Slate’s How To podcast, Todd got some crucial advice from Jessica Slice and Caroline Cupp, authors of Dateable: Swiping Right, Hooking Up, and Settling Down While Chronically Ill and Disabled.

This week, we’re sharing that wonderful episode with Death, Sex & Money listeners, and to kick things off, Anna talks to Carvell Wallace (the host of How To) about what makes this episode special. Listeners may remember Carvell from his appearance on DSM earlier this year.

Do you have a problem that needs solving? Reach out to the How To podcast at howto@slate.com or leave them a voicemail at 646-495-4001.

How To’s executive producer is Derek John. Joel Meyer is their senior editor/producer. The show is produced by Rosemary Belson, with Kevin Bendis and Sara McCrae.

Anna and Carvell’s conversation was produced by Cameron Drews. The rest of the DSM team includes Andrew Dunn, Zoe Azulay, and Daisy Rosario.

Here’s the estate planning checklist that Carvell mentions in the episode and the full episode of How To about estate planning. And here’s the episode featuring Carvell’s son – it’s delightful.

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