Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel Esther Calling - Love is a Trap
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Apr 22, 2024 In this enlightening conversation, a caller explores his struggles with obsessive thoughts about ex-boyfriends while in new relationships. Esther Perel, a renowned psychotherapist known for her insights on modern love, guides him through the emotional traps stemming from childhood experiences. They unravel the complexities of attachment patterns, desire fluctuations, and the impact of familial dynamics on personal connections. This engaging dialogue encourages listeners to reflect on their own relational narratives and the importance of self-awareness in fostering healthier relationships.
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Relationship Pattern
- The caller describes a recurring pattern in his relationships.
- He initially feels excited, but then desires his ex or fantasizes about others, leading to breakups.
Internal Struggle
- Esther Perel points out that the caller's issue isn't external but internal.
- It's driven by an internal sequence triggered by shifts in desire and the fear of rejection.
Mirroring Parental Relationships
- Perel notes that romantic relationships often mirror our relationships with our parents.
- This is because the emotional distance in friendships prevents such patterns.