Clearer Thinking with Spencer Greenberg Bringing your "A-game" to your relationships (with Annie Lalla)
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Jun 25, 2025 
Annie Lalla, a relationship coach specializing in long-term romance, joins the discussion to unpack the essence of bringing your "A-game" to relationships. She explores emotional fitness, the balance of attraction and conflict, and how relationships serve as a gym for personal growth. The conversation touches on the intricacies of self-absorption versus codependency, along with the critical role of self-awareness in nurturing healthy dynamics. Annie also offers strategies for overcoming trauma, empowering listeners to regain agency and transform their relational experiences.
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Bring Your A-Game Always
- Bring your A-game in every interaction when dating or in a relationship to habituate your best self.
- Practice emotional sophistication and care consistently, not just when you feel it's the "right" person or moment.
Conflict Builds Emotional Fitness
- Conflict in relationships acts like muscle tears that build emotional fitness if navigated well.
- The speed of emotional recovery from conflict indicates relational health, similar to athletic fitness measures.
Conflict Forges Intimacy
- Conflict is essential for intimacy building as it forces collaboration and mutual understanding.
- Working through conflict reveals personal values and appreciation of a partner's unique strengths.