Why Can't They Just Get Over It

This episode looks at why your partner might struggle to “just get over” something that feels small to you. Often, their reaction isn’t really about the forgotten text or missed plan—it’s about old wounds from times they felt invisible or unimportant. Instead of brushing it off, the episode shows how empathy and repair can turn these moments into opportunities for deeper connection.

Colter, Cayla, and Lauren dive into topics like:

- Why little things often hit deeper emotional scars.

- How “just get over it” shuts down closeness instead of fixing the problem.

- Signs that your partner’s reaction is about more than the moment. - Simple shifts—curiosity, empathy, and listening—that help your partner feel seen.

- How repair after conflict builds more trust than avoiding fights.

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