As your sexual fantasy starts playing out in your head, you might shrug it off as “just my imagination.” But sexual fantasy carries more power than you know. It’s the gateway that leads to everything else you’re battling.
So, let’s consider taking a different point of view of your sexual fantasy and taking back some of the power it holds on you. What if you tried more than just putting it out of your mind?
What if you could connect the storylines of your fantasy to the storyline of your life? There is power in understanding the where and why and who your imagination invites in.
In this episode of “Becoming Whole,” Josh offers 3 simple steps to get you started.
Let’s begin.
Highlights:
A lot of us who have wrestled with unwanted sexual behaviors, tend to think that fantasy is kind of the light end of things.
Sexual fantasy is the gateway that leads to everything else.
There are common threads for people in the kind of pornography they view and the kinds of things they’ve experienced in their lives.
Men who experienced a sense of meaninglessness in their lives, a lack of meaning were 7 times more likely to increase their porn use.
If we are serious about becoming people of sexual integrity, if we are serious about leaving sexual sin in the past; then there are actually deeper issues, deeper matters of the heart, deeper relational patterns, deeper emotional issues that we have to address in order to leave them behind because our fantasies, the kind of porn we’re pursuing, the kind of sexual sin we’re pursuing is actually looking for something that’s not there.
Homework:
1. Find someone to walk this journey with you.
2. Approach this process with Kindness & Curiosity: Ask questions without condemnation
3. Be sober about the work. (Being sober means to recognize and be aware your unwanted sexual behaviors have created neural pathways in your brain that you’re accustomed to. And so, your body and your brain are going to move easily in that direction.)
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Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole
👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional
👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior)
👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)