Perfectionism Rewired When Taking A Few Deep Breaths Isn't Enough
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"Your inner experience is always correct and valid. It's crucial to find support that acknowledges and works with your unique inner world as a perfectionist."-CLG episode 192 Perfectionism Rewired
In This Episode You’ll Learn:
EPSISODE 192 TIMESTAMPS:
01:13-Struggling with perfectionism? It’s not You. It’s…
02:18-Playing the wait and see strategy out until a crisis
03:27-How the Perfectionist Playbooks come in clutch
05:00-When You Have Nobody To Turn To or Who Understands
06:15-Inner Experience of Being A Perfectionist
07:30-How complying with the rules to earn the reward, screws over perfectionists
08:16-When Talk Therapy Makes Perfectionism Worse (IRL client example)
09:54-Why Compliance Driven Support DOES NOT work for perfectionists
10:26-When Deep Breathing Just Isn’t Cutting It. This.is.WHY
11:12-Dangers of hierarchical support like doctor + patient
12:54-Confused bc taking deep breaths is supposed to be relaxing
13:18-What lies beneath the surface of perfectionism is what’s controlling it
13:30-Why it feels like you're playing a game of whack a mole
14:00-How Perfectionistic Habits are like the Golden Gate Bridge
15:02-Love Researching, learning or self-diagnose? LISTEN UP
15:44-If deep breathing is not enough, what is?
16:30-The one thing that makes changes easy to do
17:21-Surprising changes for Carly + her young kids with Interoceptive Awareness
18:14-Practical Interoception tools so you can stay regulated even during hectic days
19:23-Why Interoception Works for Perfectionism
20:00-Secret Way Human Bodies decide how anxious or calm to be
21:05-Sneak Preview of next episode
HIGHLY CREDIBLE SOURCES CITED IN THIS EPISODE:
- Adrián Yoris, Esteves, S., Couto, B., Melloni, M., Kichic, R., Cetkovich, M., … Sedeño, L. (2015). The roles of interoceptive sensitivity and metacognitive interoception in panic. Behavioral and Brain Functions, 11(1). https://doi.org/10.1186/s12993-015-0058-8
- Asena Boyadzhieva, & Ezgi Kayhan. (2021). Keeping the Breath in Mind: Respiration, Neural Oscillations, and the Free Energy Principle. Frontiers in Neuroscience, 15. https://doi.org/10.3389/fnins.2021.647579
- Duquette, P., & Ainley, V. (2019). Working With the Predictable Life of Patients: The Importance of “Mentalizing Interoception” to Meaningful Change in Psychotherapy. Frontiers in Psychology, 10. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2019.02173
- Price, C., & Hooven, C. (2018). Interoceptive Awareness Skills for Emotion Regulation: Theory and Approach of Mindful Awareness in Body-Oriented Therapy (MABT). Frontiers in Psychology, 9. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.00798
- Zoellner, L. A., & Craske, M. G. (1999). Interoceptive Accuracy and Panic. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 37(12), 1141–1158. https://doi.org/10.1016/s0005-7967(98)00202-2
Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.