Welcome! Today we’re discussing Perfectionism, Worthiness, and Self-Compassion. I’m using a personal example from my own experience as the basis for our discussion. Join me!
What you’ll hear in this episode:
The “growth ceiling” can cause anxiety as we exceed our expectations.
As an example of a “growth ceiling,” I never imagined having a thriving full-time practice where I love going to work and serving my clients, or having a podcast, or interviewing prominent guests.
Brene’ Brown refers to this as “foreboding joy,” the dread that “good things just can’t happen for me.”
The solution to these attitudes is to stay in the moment and to realize that no one is more worthy of good things than another.
Kristin Neff identifies Three Elements of Self-Compassion:
Self-Kindness
Common Humanity
Mindfulness
Scarcity—What does it mean to operate from this focus?
My personal example is when I was overjoyed to interview Dr. Dan Seigel for the podcast. Listen in to hear the disastrous story of my recording attempt!
I normally would have felt like a failure and gone into a shame spiral, but instead, I was able to think, “How lucky I am to have had that beautiful conversation with Dr. Seigel!”
My Self-Compassion practice has allowed me to have this incredibly different attitude and retain my sense of worthiness.
I had to contact Dr. Seigel and request to re-record the conversation, which will be a soon upcoming episode.
Self-Compassion has truly changed my life. “I’m human. Stuff happens. We recover, and it’s OK.”
Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Dr. Kristin Neff
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