E28: 9 Mistakes Beginner Submissives Make Time and Again (aka How to Protect Yourself)
May 15, 2023
Exploring BDSM can be thrilling yet daunting for beginners. Common mistakes can lead to emotional turmoil, but clear communication and understanding are key to avoiding pitfalls. This discussion emphasizes the importance of defining personal desires, creating a sex menu, and recognizing red flags for safety. Building a supportive community is vital, as well as practicing self-compassion on this journey. It's all about balancing exploration with emotional health and celebrating growth in the kink world.
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Avoid Sub-Frenzy Pitfalls
Avoid "sub-frenzy" by slowing down and thinking carefully before engaging.
Take time to sense-check who you talk to and what you share to prevent emotional hurt.
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Know Your Submissive Desires
Define what you want as a sub and don't blindly follow commands you dislike.
Communicate your preferences openly to your Dom and negotiate boundaries honestly.
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Choose Your Dom Carefully
Don't rush to accept the first dominant who contacts you.
Choose someone you like, trust, and want to build a connection with.
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Discovering the BDSM world as a beginner submissive can be incredibly exciting, but it can also lead to repeated mistakes and take its emotional toll on you. In this episode of Conversations with a Dom, we discuss beginner subs' common mistakes and how to avoid them. Our conversation involves everything you need to know about BDSM, including creating a sex menu, understanding terminology, finding a dominant, and avoiding people who might take advantage of you.
The discussion emphasizes the importance of taking time and sense-checking your journey to avoid sub-frenzy. We look at how communication, negotiations, and defining core desires are crucial in creating a successful dynamic. We discuss the importance of developing a support community and attending kinky events to connect with like-minded people and learn new skills.
Join us as we celebrate progress and growth on the kinky journey while being kind to ourselves.
Topics Discussed
Mistakes beginner submissives make repeatedly.
How to avoid sub-frenzy and take things slow and steady.
Developing communication skills and the importance of negotiations between the sub and Dominant.
Identifying red flags and looking out for your safety.
How to define core desires, create a sex menu and develop a supportive community.
The importance of community and interacting with like-minded people.
Society's changing views on normal sexual behaviour.
The Art of Submission course designed for beginner submissives.
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