067: Overcoming Challenges and Exploring Dynamics in Ethical Non-Monogamy: Stag and Vixen, Playing Separately vs Together, and Alcohol's Effects

Apr 18, 2024

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In this episode, Vee chats with two couples at Hedonism Swing Breakers about their tools and takeaways for making a vacation at an all-inclusive lifestyle resort a success. Superslut and The Turk chat about how therapy helped set them up for success, while Josie and Evan share how Evan cutting out alcohol changed their relationship for the better. Additionally, they cover: What are some communication techniques to mitigate the effects of the free-flowing alcohol? Why keep doing it if it's so much work? ...And what are some hot experiences they've had along the way?

First Hedo experience: a big challenge. Going through a polyamorous breakup. (3:55)

Tools from both solo and couples therapy. People pleasing. No "taking one for the team". (8:42)

Safety Tool: No record-counting. Setting desires not goals. (12:30)

Safety Tool: Move at the pace of the slowest person. Playing separately vs. playing together. (15:34)

Safety Tool: limiting alcohol consumption to help manage emotions. (17:51)

Safety Tool: Only argue for two minutes. Keep the mindset that you're a team. (19:01)

Spicy story: being a couple's first ENM experience. Enthusiastic consent. (20:01)

Spicy Story: Superslut's first double penetration (DP). (21:31)

Stag and Vixen: what is it? Why a woman might not enjoy watching her partner with someone else. Finding your dynamic through trial and error. Why Hedonism is not the ideal place to figure out what works for you. (22:50)

Drinking and the lifestyle: how drinking affects your ability to respect boundaries and agreements. Getting sober to save your relationship. How stopping drinking can enrich your experience with your partner. Getting used to being at an all-inclusive resort without alcohol. Discovering we are braver than we thought. What do you do with your hands? (28:29)

Why swing? Dressing sexy for your partner. Vaginal hook harnesses. (35:49)

Why be in the open lifestyle? Sense of community. "Hedo people are the best people." Icebreakers. (38:13)

Major takeaway: don’t have a checklist. Release expectations. There’s always next time. (41:01)

Squirting and exhibitionism. (43:20)

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