Bestselling author and memoirist Maggie O'Farrell joins Elizabeth Day to discuss resurrecting untold women's stories, balancing writing and parenthood, and redefining success as a writer. O'Farrell shares her personal journey, reflecting on the impact of illness on her life and the physical repercussions she still faces. They delve into the emotional weight of losing a child, the importance of connecting with readers, and the joy of freely expressing oneself through writing.
The speaker shares her journey of overcoming physical limitations caused by a childhood illness, highlighting resilience and gratitude.
The speaker discusses her disappointment in not achieving her desired result in exams, leading to unexpected career paths.
The speaker reflects on how her illness and physical challenges influenced her perspective, shaping her as an observer and writer.
Deep dives
Overcoming a Stammer and Physical Challenges
The speaker discusses her experience of living with a stammer and the physical challenges resulting from a childhood illness. She recalls developing a severe stammer in childhood, the struggle to speak fluently, and the constant need for linguistic dexterity to cover up her stammer. Additionally, she shares her journey of overcoming physical limitations caused by encephalitis. Despite being registered as disabled, she managed to regain her ability to walk and lead an independent life. While she acknowledges the challenges, she also expresses gratitude for her progress and resilience.
Failing to Get a Good Result in Finals
The speaker reveals her disappointment in not achieving the desired result in her final exams, hindering her plans to pursue a PhD. She had wanted to delve deeper into her passion for the poet of 'Sir Gawain and the Green Knight' but received a lower grade than expected for her dissertation. Despite her devastation, she later found solace in running away to Hong Kong, where she took on various jobs and eventually became a journalist.
Life-Altering Impacts of Childhood Illness
The speaker opens up about the lasting impacts of her childhood illness, encephalitis. She details the severity of her condition, which resulted in the loss of voluntary control and necessitated a long hospital stay. After defying the initial prognosis of never walking again, she slowly regained her ability to walk, but certain limitations persisted, such as balance issues and difficulty with proprioception. Despite dealing with occasional setbacks, the speaker remains resilient and grateful for her progress.
Reinvention and Observations of Others
The speaker reflects on how her illness at a young age and subsequent physical challenges influenced her perspective and shaped her as an observer of people. She shares how she found solace in writing prose, particularly novels, and reinventing herself. She also touches upon moving to different places and feeling like an outsider, emphasizing the importance of curiosity and observation in her writing process.
Embracing Failures and Owning Identity
In conclusion, the speaker emphasizes her refusal to define her failures as limitations. Instead, she embraces her experiences and acknowledges the resilience and strength they have brought her. She shares her gratitude for the life she has built and the person she has become, expressing an understanding that failures and challenges are an integral part of one's identity and journey.
For our season finale, I bring you the glorious Maggie O'Farrell. She is one of my favourite authors, and her books include the highly acclaimed novels After You'd Gone, The Hand That First Held Mine, Instructions for a Heatwave and the bestselling memoir I Am, I Am, I Am. Her most recent work of fiction, Hamnet, imagined the untold story of Shakespeare’s son who died at the age of 11. It won the 2020 Women’s Prize.
She joins me to talk about resurrecting the untold stories of women, how to be a writer and a parent (Cyril Connolly and his 'pram in the hallway' come in for a bit of a bashing) as well as how she applies concepts of success and failure to her books. She talks about her stammer and her failure to do a PhD and we also discuss how a childhood illness changed her forever, and the various physical repercussions that she still lives with. Plus: why she always finds the back of a tapestry far more interesting than the front...
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Hamnet by Maggie O'Farrell is out now. You can buy all her books here.
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My new novel, Magpie, is out on 2nd September. I'd love it if you felt like pre-ordering as it really helps authors! You can do that here.
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How To Fail With Elizabeth Day is hosted by Elizabeth Day, produced by Naomi Mantin and Chris Sharp. We love hearing from you. To contact us, email howtofailpod@gmail.com