Inner Work With MaryAnn Walker: Reclaiming Identity, Boundaries, and Personal Sovereignty A podcast for recovering people-pleasers rebuilding self-trust and a strong sense of self 59: The Mental Toll of Constantly Trying to Please Others with Kellyn Legath
Sep 14, 2023
38:03
In this podcast episode MaryAnn Walker and Kellyn Legath dive deep into the correlation between anxiety and people-pleasing, shedding light on the underlying emotions and behaviors associated with these common struggles. Here are the main takeaways from their insightful conversation:
- The Correlation Between Anxiety and People Pleasing: How people-pleasers often experience anxiety when they prioritize others' needs and expectations over their own. This behavior arises from a fear of upsetting others or not fitting in, resembling a form of social anxiety.
- The Negative Consequences of People Pleasing: Exploring the detrimental effects of chronic people-pleasing, emphasizing that it can lead to self-abandonment and a loss of one's authentic self. When individuals constantly focus on others, it becomes challenging to identify their core values and desires.her we
- Self-Deception in People Pleasing: How individuals may initially feel good about making others happy but later realize they were seeking external validation to fulfill an inner void.
- Recognizing Emotional Needs: How people-pleasers often neglect their own emotional well-being, leading to emotional stuffing and avoidance, which can be emotionally exhausting.
- Practical Tips for Overcoming People-Pleasing and Anxiety:
- Building Awareness: Kellyn recommends mindfulness practices like journaling to become more aware of the stories and emotions driving ones people-pleasing behaviors.
- Emotion Identification: Learning to identify and differentiate various emotions, enabling individuals to respond effectively to their emotional needs.
- Honesty and Vulnerability: Creating safe spaces to practice honesty and vulnerability with trusted individuals can help retrain the nervous system and allow for healthier boundaries and self-expression.
The episode offers valuable insights into the intertwined challenges of anxiety and people pleasing while providing practical strategies for personal growth and emotional well-being. It encourages listeners to prioritize self-care and authenticity in their relationships and lives.
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