The Lifestyle: How it Impacts Sexual Function and Erectile Dysfunction (ED)
Oct 2, 2023
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Dr. David Ley, a renowned psychologist and certified sex therapist, discusses the lifestyle of swinging and non-monogamy. He explores the rules and boundaries couples can have to keep things comfortable and safe. The podcast also covers the impact of the lifestyle on sexual function and erectile dysfunction, as well as managing anxieties and pressures in non-monogamous relationships.
The lifestyle, or swinging and other forms of non-monogamy, can provide sexual exploration and satisfaction for couples who engage in it.
Factors such as age, anxiety, performance pressure, and communication skills can impact sexual function and contribute to erectile dysfunction in the lifestyle.
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The Lifestyle and Its Impact on Sexual Function
The podcast episode focuses on the lifestyle, a form of consensual non-monogamy that involves recreational sex rather than forming romantic relationships. The lifestyle is typically practiced by heterosexual couples who attend events where they engage in sexual activities with people other than their main partner. However, there are various arrangements within the lifestyle, such as playing with other couples, soft swapping (kissing and oral sex), threesomes with other women, and hot wifeing (wife having sex with other men while the husband only engages with the wife). The lifestyle is said to prioritize sexual experiences and exploration, leading to high sexual satisfaction for those who engage in it.
Factors Influencing Success in the Lifestyle
The success and satisfaction in the lifestyle depend on certain factors. Individuals or couples who are high in sexual sensation seeking and socio-sexuality (ability to value and engage in sex outside of a relationship) are more likely to find fulfillment in the lifestyle. On the other hand, people who do not value casual sex and have moral conflicts about it may struggle in the lifestyle. Age is another factor to consider, as swingers tend to be older. Anxiety and performance pressure can arise due to the expectation to perform in front of others. Communication, mutual respect, jealousy management, and negotiation skills are crucial for a successful experience in the lifestyle.
Erectile Dysfunction and Challenges in the Lifestyle
In the lifestyle, there is an observed prevalence of erectile dysfunction (ED) and sexual dysfunction. Several factors contribute to this, including the age of swingers, the intimidating environment, and the performance pressure to meet sexual expectations. The judgment associated with struggling with maintaining an erection in the lifestyle can further exacerbate anxiety. There are also anxieties related to the presence of a partner during sexual activities with others. It is important to note that entering the lifestyle as a last-ditch effort to salvage a struggling relationship may not always be advisable, as good communication, negotiation skills, and jealousy management are necessary for success.
In this podcast episode, we are joined by Dr. David Ley, a renowned psychologist, certified s*x therapist, and supervisor of s*x therapy. Dr. Ley has authored several books, including "Insatiable Wives," "The Myth of S*x Addiction," and "Ethical Porn for Dicks.".
Dr. Ley discusses the "lifestyle" , or swinging and other forms of non-monogamy that couples explore to spice things up.
Couples can have rules in order to keep things comfortable and safe. For example, they might only play with other couples or do things like kissing and oral s*x but not have penetrative s*x.
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