Private Parts Unknown: Sex & Love Around the World Dominatrix & Healer Aleta Cai on Radical Confidence, Subspace & Why “50 Shades of Grey” Was Annoying
Aug 28, 2019
Aleta Cai, a dominatrix and healer with a unique journey from a strict Chinese upbringing, dives deep into the fascinating connection between BDSM and healing. She discusses the empowering feeling of radical confidence that came with her profession and the complexities of subspace. Aleta shares insights on why she rarely sees women among her clients and the allure of submissiveness in her culture. She also critiques '50 Shades of Grey' for its inaccuracies, while reflecting on her emotional connections, even falling in love with one of her slaves.
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From Insomnia to BDSM
- Aleta Cai's entry into BDSM began with insomnia and Craigslist, leading her to a dungeon.
- Initially driven by curiosity and a desire to explore dominance, she found it shocking but intriguing.
Embracing Dominance
- Aleta Cai's transition into her dominant persona developed gradually, starting with initial empowerment and confidence.
- This "mistress-itis" faded, but going independent allowed her to define her own terms and embrace her role.
Work-Life Balance
- Aleta Cai compartmentalizes her professional and personal lives, finding limited crossover between her work as a dominatrix and her personal relationships.
- While pro domming initially suppressed her sexuality, exploration revealed a submissive side in her personal kink preferences.