S3 Ep. 04: Self-Compassion -- Inner Parts Work with Relationship Coach Catherine
Dec 19, 2023
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Relationship coach Catherine discusses inner parts work and self-compassion in non-monogamous relationships. The impact of childhood experiences on adult behaviors and the importance of self-compassion for personal growth are explored. The podcast also mentions resources for further learning and upcoming wellness retreats.
Recognizing and having compassion for our inner child and adolescent in non-monogamous relationships.
Understanding the roles of adaptive child and snarky teenager in personal development for self-awareness.
Identifying and transcending adaptive behaviors to reclaim one's true identity and foster personal growth.
Deep dives
Understanding Internal Family Systems and the Adult Chair Approach to Counseling
The podcast delves into the comparison between Internal Family Systems and the Adult Chair approach to counseling. The guest, Katherine, from Expansive Connection Coaching, shares insights on how these models help identify and manage different parts of oneself. She explains that both models focus on recognizing and personifying various internal parts that may not always align. The idea is to have a wise adult self guide these parts towards making decisions that best serve the individual.
Recognizing Adaptive Child and Snarky Teenager Roles in Personal Development
The discussion uncovers the roles of the adaptive child and snarky teenager within personal development. Katherine elaborates on how the adaptive child embodies compliance and the desire for approval, often stemming from childhood experiences. In contrast, the snarky teenager emerges as a protective persona, exhibiting self-sabotaging behaviors and defensive tendencies. Understanding these roles can aid individuals in navigating their emotional responses and fostering self-awareness.
Overcoming Adaptive Behavior and Discovering Authentic Self-Identity
The podcast addresses the challenge of individuals getting entrenched in adaptive behaviors, potentially hindering the discovery of their authentic self. Katherine provides insights into identifying and transcending these roles, especially common for those who've heavily relied on their adaptive child tendencies. She suggests reading 'The Drama of the Gifted Child' as a valuable resource for gaining clarity on the origins of such behaviors and reclaiming one's true identity beyond these adaptations.
Understanding and Acknowledging Inner Parts
The podcast delves into the concept of inner parts and how acknowledging and understanding these different aspects of ourselves can lead to personal growth and self-awareness. By recognizing the roles of the adaptive child and the observer self, individuals can navigate their behaviors and decisions with more clarity and alignment with their authentic selves. The discussion highlights the importance of thanking and listening to these inner parts rather than dismissing them, emphasizing the value they have provided in various life situations.
Utilizing Inner Child Work in Lifestyle Situations
The episode explores the significance of integrating inner child work into lifestyle contexts, particularly for women facing insecurities and triggers related to body image or relationships. By embracing the playful and expressive nature of the inner child, individuals can foster a deeper connection to their emotions and experiences. The podcast emphasizes the need to engage with protective parts while allowing space for vulnerability and exploration, promoting a balanced approach to addressing triggers and maintaining emotional well-being in lifestyle scenarios.
Kate talks to non-monogamous relationship coach Catherine from Expansive Connection Coaching about inner parts work. She explains The Adult Chair approach to recognizing and having compassion for our inner child and adolescent, especially when faced with the triggers the lifestyle can bring.
Want to dig deeper with Kate and Catherine? Consider joining us for our Women of the Lifestyle wellness retreat this April. Go to www.sapiotours.com for more information.