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2105: Why We Feel Lonely and What (Not) to Do About It by Dr. Kelly Flanagan on Understanding Loneliness & The Human Experience

Mar 17, 2024

Dr. Kelly Flanagan explores the concept of loneliness, distinguishing it from shame. Emphasizes that loneliness is a natural part of life. Encourages reframing loneliness as a shared human experience, not a personal flaw. Discusses the connection between loneliness and shame, empowering listeners to differentiate between the two. Offers insight on navigating loneliness and shame, promoting self-improvement in relationships.

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Kelly Flanagan

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Loneliness is a natural part of life, distinct from shame.

Reframing loneliness helps in accepting it as a shared human experience.

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Understanding Loneliness and Shame

Loneliness and shame are often intertwined experiences, but they exist separately. While addressing shame can lessen its impact, loneliness can persist. Loneliness is described as a fundamental aspect of human existence, arising from the realization of the internal universes we all possess.

Loneliness: No one sees the world through our eyes

02:08

Introduction

2min

Exploring the Essence of Loneliness and Human Connection

2min

Navigating Loneliness and Shame

3min

Exploring Proper Fueling, Wardrobe Upgrade, and Reframing Loneliness

4min

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Episode 2105:

Dr. Kelly Flanagan explores the concept of loneliness and its separation from shame. Despite diminishing shame, loneliness can persist, highlighting its intrinsic nature to human existence. The post encourages reframing loneliness as a natural part of life and discourages the association of shame with this universal experience.

Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drkellyflanagan.com/why-we-feel-lonely-and-what-not-to-do-about-it/

Quotes to ponder:

"Loneliness happens. It is as much a part of life as hunger and sunsets and funerals."

"When you feel lonely for a time, it is your loneliness surfacing and then settling into the depths again. It doesn’t mean you’re paying a price for something. It simply means you’re paying attention."

"Shame is often everything that comes after the word because. Shame is believing your loneliness is a consequence for how badly or strangely you were made."

Episode references:

Dr. Kelly Flanagan's book: "Loveable": https://drkellyflanagan.com/loveable/

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