Before Breakfast What do you do when you're not here?
Aug 22, 2025
Discover how to foster deeper connections through thought-provoking questions. Learn the art of turning acquaintances into friends by exploring shared interests. The key question of 'What do you do when you’re not here?' encourages openness and invites meaningful conversations. Dive into techniques that enhance your relationships and help you connect on a more personal level.
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Ask The Context-Free Question
- Ask people you see regularly, "What do you do when you're not here?" to learn about their life outside your shared context.
- This open question lets them choose what matters to them and avoids assuming paid work defines them.
Context Limits How Well You Know People
- We often know people only within specific contexts like work or church, which gives an incomplete picture of them.
- Learning what they do outside that context yields a fuller understanding and can deepen the relationship.
Avoid Assuming Paid Work
- Use the question because it doesn't assume paid work or current employment status and so won't embarrass or offend someone.
- Let people pick what they're excited about so conversations reveal genuine interests you can connect on.