PsycHacks Episode 407: How to keep your cool with women (the sandwich strategy)
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Mar 1, 2024 Learn how to manage emotions and conflicts with women using the 'Sandwich Strategy'. Understand the importance of acknowledging feelings and using 'I feel' qualifiers in emotional discussions. Gain insights on interpreting women's emotions and preventing defensiveness in relationships.
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Weaponized Intimacy Explained
- People hurt loved ones due to access to vulnerabilities, called weaponized intimacy.
- Emotional attacks like "you don't love me" often target these vulnerabilities for pain.
Defensiveness Escalates Conflict
- Defensiveness validates attackers and escalates the conflict.
- Men often unintentionally empower attacks by trying to prove innocence.
Use "I Feel" To Reframe Attacks
- Mentally add "I feel" before a woman's emotional statements to view them as feelings, not facts.
- This reframes attacks as expressions of her emotional reality, reducing personal hurt.