PsycHacks Episode 576: She takes and takes (why he feels used)
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Dec 5, 2025 Men often feel used in relationships because they over-give, leading to resentment. The real issue isn't just about women taking; it's about establishing poor boundaries and the fear of emotional conflict. By fostering a mindset of abundance and optionality, men can change their relational dynamics and reclaim agency. Orion emphasizes the importance of saying no when necessary and tolerating partners' emotions to maintain clarity. Acknowledging these factors can significantly improve relationship satisfaction and prevent feelings of being undervalued.
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Perceived Value Drives Relationship Conflict
- Relationship fights usually stem from perceived imbalance in giving and receiving.
- People emphasize what they give and downplay what they receive, creating conflict.
Reframe Problems As Your Responsibility
- The issue is often a man who keeps giving, not a woman who takes.
- Problems framed as others' fault remove a person's ability to respond effectively.
Say No To Protect Your Resources
- Do not avoid saying no because of fear of tears or tantrums; practice withholding unwanted consent.
- Protect resources by prioritizing what matters to you over short-term emotional avoidance.
