Ever faced a one-upper who turns every win into a competition? This discussion dives into the annoying intricacies of one-upping and its impact on relationships. Discover three powerful strategies to protect your peace and set boundaries. Learn how to respond lightheartedly while fostering genuine connections, even in a competitive workplace. Transform those frustrating conversations into meaningful interactions that uplift rather than undermine!
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Initial One-Upping
Let others one-up you the first time.
This helps identify individuals you may not want to share with in the future.
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One-Upping as Insecurity
Recognize one-upping as insecurity, not a personal attack.
This reframes the situation and helps avoid defensiveness.
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Setting Boundaries
Respond positively but avoid further sharing with one-uppers.
Acknowledge their comment and move on.
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From communication expert Jefferson Fisher, this book provides immediately actionable strategies and phrases to transform your life and relationships by improving your communication. Fisher, a trial lawyer and leading voice on real-world communication, offers a tried-and-true three-part communication system (Say it with control, Say it with confidence, Say it to connect) that can be applied to any situation. The book teaches how to assert yourself, set boundaries, frame conversations, and overcome conflict with connection, ensuring that your every word has a positive impact on your relationships.
You’re excited to share something you’re proud of, and then someone jumps in with, “Oh, that’s nothing—I’ve done [insert bigger, better thing here].”
It’s like they can’t help but make it a competition. Every win you share becomes their chance to one-up you.
At first, it’s just annoying. But over time, it starts to wear on you.
In this episode, I’m sharing 3 simple strategies to deal with one-uppers.
You’ll learn how to protect your peace, set boundaries, and stop letting these moments steal your joy.
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